The Single Paycheck Trap: Why Your Job Isn’t Safety


This week’s podcast was a personal one. I talked about the moment I realised my 'stable' corporate job was not safety and what I’ve learned after almost 30 years in HR about real financial security for women.

Here’s a summary of the key ideas, plus one simple action step you can take this week.

CLICK HERE TO LISTEN TO THE PODCAST

Job Security Is Mostly an Illusion

We’re taught: 'Get a good job, climb the ladder, and you’ll be safe.'

But from the HR side, I’ve seen:

  • People made redundant in mass layoffs
  • Salaries and hours cut overnight
  • Resignations that couldn’t be taken back
  • High performers still affected by restructures

Early in my career, I watched others lose their jobs. Later, I felt it personally through:

  • A resignation I couldn’t retract
  • Pay cuts after mergers and the pandemic
  • Being the main provider with children and family depending on me

Key insight: A job can be a great source of income but it is not a guaranteed source of safety.

The Golden Handcuffs Make You More Vulnerable

We often believe:

Higher salary = more security.

But in reality:

  • The more you earn in one place, the more you depend on it
  • The more your lifestyle stretches to match that salary
  • The more you feel you have to lose

That’s why we call it 'golden handcuffs'.

When I walked away from a 6-figure job and later took a 6-figure business loan for our café, I realised:

  • I had placed my family’s wellbeing in systems I didn’t control
  • I had underestimated how exposed one income stream really is

Key insight: High salary without options doesn’t equal safety. It often equals quiet fear.

True Safety Comes From Inside You

Here’s the perspective shift that changed everything for me:

Real security comes from your ability to create money, not from a single source of money.

That means:

  • Your skills
  • Your professional experience
  • Your lived experience
  • Your willingness to solve real problems for people

When my salary was cut, I:

  • Used my existing HR & training skills
  • Started freelancing as a trainer
  • Replaced (and sometimes exceeded) my corporate income in fewer hours

That opened my eyes:

'I can create money outside my job. I’m not trapped.'

Key insight: Making money is a skill. Skills can be learned, practiced, and strengthened — just like a muscle.

The Price You’re Willing to Pay

We all say we want:

  • Security
  • Freedom
  • Options

But every result has a 'price':

  • Time
  • Energy
  • Emotional discomfort
  • Learning new skills
  • Showing up consistently

I chose not to chase bigger corporate promotions because, for me, the price (time, stress, misalignment) wasn’t worth the reward.

I chose instead to 'pay the price' of building something of my own - recording this podcast, writing on LinkedIn, building a side business - even when no one was paying me for it yet.

Key insight: You’re already paying a price. The question is whether it’s leading to the life you actually want.

Weekly Key Takeaway

Financial security doesn’t come from your employer, your partner, or the government. It starts inside you, with your belief that you can create money, your willingness to learn how, and your commitment to developing that skill over time.

One Action Step for This Week

Journal on this question:

'If I truly believed I could always find a way to earn what I need, what would I stop fearing today?'

Then, write down one small way you could test your ability to create money using skills you already have.

Examples:

  • Offering a paid 1:1 session to someone who’s already asked you for advice
  • Charging for something you’ve been doing for free
  • Reaching out to a past contact who values your expertise

You don’t have to act on it today. But write it down. Let your brain start to see possibilities beyond a single paycheck.

If you’d like support to build real safety beyond one employer and one paycheck, you can:

  1. Reply to this email and tell me what resonated most
  2. CLICK HERE to book a free discovery call

Have a good week!

Sharon

Sharon Singh Sidhu

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